Some are fake in the way they act around you and others.
Their personality is as unpredictable as their own convictions.
They like to be in control of what they want, when they want it, and the way they want it. It is all based on what they want.
E.g. Acting all submissive and nice in the presence of ‘respectable’ people who would pet them on their back for the show of such goodness. But once in the presence of ‘peers’, they tend to throw their weight on whatever they are feeling at that time (having that, ‘this is me, take it or leave it’ attitude), knowing that it is the peers who are more forgiving than the ‘respectable’ people.
I frankly am a bit sick of such hypocrisy. For that is exactly what it is.
Carson gave a very fine line on this: Happy is the family that has few pretensions and high performance, than those who are high in pretensions and low in performance.
This is never a new observation nor is the problem something confined to our generation; the Jewish people and Roman Gentiles were filled with these views, during the time of Jesus (e.g. be different in your secular post, and relaxed in your personal one). I believe the right term (besides hypocrisy) is spiritual schizophrenia.
As a note of disclaimer: I am not referring to the gestures and mannerism in life. Where one is in Rome, you do as the Romans do, is true. But you do not act out of character. Too often, we just let these things pass, citing the ‘age’ factor and ‘background’. But if we are not true to our character and to the ones around us, how can we ever be sure of your profession of faith?
Would that also be conditioned by your excuses to the former problem?